How Do You Handle Conflict?

Conflict is a part of life. Sometimes simple disagreements and misunderstandings occur. Other times conflict stems from something else, like fear, pride, or the need to always be right or in control.

A disagreement occurs. Criticisms and accusations are made. Hurtful words are spoken and emotions rage out of control.  What was a simple disagreement is now a full blown conflict, only to be followed by bitterness and resentment when left unresolved.

If you can relate this, you are not alone. We have all had a negative response to conflict.  Although we can’t control how another person responds to conflict, we are accountable for how we respond.  We can learn how to handle conflict in a healthy way.

James 1:9 says “Be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger.” In other words, a calm approach may achieve a more positive result while in the moment.

Being quiet in the moment gives us the opportunity to receive from the Holy Spirit, our guide and helper. Luke 12:12 says “for the Holy Spirit will teach you at that time what needs to be said.”

We can read the bible for instruction and we can pray in the midst of the conflict, asking God for wisdom and discernment to understand the root cause of the issue. Sometimes we are at fault and we must be the first to apologize.

Conflict can be unpleasant and overwhelming at times, but we don’t have to be afraid of it. Romans 8:28 reminds us that “God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.”

I hope and pray you are encouraged and comforted today and always.

Best regards,


2 thoughts on “How Do You Handle Conflict?”

  1. I am learning not to let my emotions (mainly fear and anger) cloud my thinking or direct my words. Instead, I’m trying to remember to pause and silently pray for direction. I’m suspecting that it’s going to be a life-long lesson to learn! Love the post, Trish! Thank you.

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