I have been married to my hubby going on 34 years this coming June. We have always shared a bedroom. I come from a family where my parents had separate bedrooms once my brother went to college. In October, we spent a week in Florida with our daughter and her fiancé. They have separate bedrooms.
In 2020, if we had a nickel for each time hubby said “I am busy” and I said “I am tired” we would have been able to pay off our tax debt. (Maybe this is why I identify with Matthew-the tax collector)
“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28
“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you” Matthew 7
So, I asked for separate bedrooms from my hubby. Call it a Christmas gift! Best gift ever! If I wasn’t up going pee all night, or having night sweats and throwing off covers, just to need them in two seconds, or he was snoring or his phone was buzzing all night, or one of us was up wandering around trying to be quiet for the other. It just wasn’t good. We now have separate wings of the upstairs and we both sleep like babies. We are more in love/like with each other now that we get good rest. We have date nights, and invite each other over to “our places”. We respect more now that we have found the gift of individualism in our relationship.
Who knew that all the years I stated “I want my own studio apartment”(when feeling overwhelmed with life) would lead to my own place of peace in our own home. Amen
By: Shelley Trojanek
Such an interesting concept. As a never-married single woman, I have a feeling I would need “my space” like this couple if I ever do get married.