Yearning to Connect

Hebrews 10:24-25 “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.”

John Ortberg said,  “The yearning to attach and connect, to love and be loved, is the fiercest longing of the soul.  Our need for community with people and the God who made us is to the human spirit what food and air and water are to the human body.”

This is just my personal opinion, but I don’t think you can be fully loved unless you are fully known.  That’s why there’s such a connection between knowing and being known – – loving and being loved.  You can only love to the extent that you’re known.  (If someone is always putting on an act, you may like them, but you are liking a false person.)

I want to encourage you to move toward having a few people in your life who know all about you.  Move toward a couple of healthy people in your life who “know” you and know your “stuff”.

Look at the way the apostle James says this in James 5:16a (NAS) Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed.

Now, you can’t do this all at once.  You do need to have wisdom and some caution.

Sometimes, people end up sharing too much – – too deep – – and too fast – – with another person that they don’t know well enough yet.  (or they go to a small group and the first time there, they share way too much—30 min. of their deep dark secrets while everyone else in the group feels very awkward.)

People usually do this out of emotional neediness, or bad judgment, or hurt, or pain.

Don’t do that.  Try not to.  It takes time to build trust.

Make a choice to move toward community, toward health, toward a few healthy relationships.

God Bless,




Author: Thora Anderson

Pastor, wife, daughter, sister, friend, Recovering worrier, Thinker, Mother of two teenagers. I've been in ministry for over 30 years and count that as huge success.

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