Pride and Love

“It is a truth universally acknowledged….” These words mark the beginning of one of my favorite novels, Pride & Prejudice. I have read this book more times than I have read any other book. At its core we see one woman’s pride almost keeps her from love. And while our lives are most likely as simple as an Austen novel, there is definitely a universal truth that must be acknowledged.

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 defines loves with, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily anger, it keeps no record of wrongs.”

I always thought of these verses in application to romantic situations. That it would apple someday with some dreamed up future husband.It wasn’t until our Women’s Evening a couple months ago when they handed out the list of verses that for the first time in my life, I read this verse not thinking about romance, or someday, but how I love people now..

I sat there and thought about loving my students with patience and without anger, without keeping records of wrong. I thought about loving my brother without envy—and that isn’t such an easy pill to swallow. To love my family without anger, even when they hurt me.

Loving like that is not easy, it does not come naturally. And while we could point to many reasons for this, I found one that seemed more true than most others. Our pride.

When we accomplish something great, our pride wants us to boast to those around us, our pride wants us to compare ourselves to others and does not like when we find ourselves lacking. Our pride does not want to forget how we have been wronged by others, our pride wants us to fight want is best for us. Our pride……I’m sure you can fill in more.

Psalm 4: 5 says “Offer right sacrifices and trust in the Lord.” If we want to be able to love like God loved us, loved to the point that he sacrificed his son, than we need to make a sacrifice as well. We need to sacrifice our pride and humble ourselves in Jesus’ image.

Easier said than done, right? Like anything else, it can be done with baby steps and faith that our Lord is there to help us.

So here is my challenge ladies, ask God to help us find places where we are not loving like him. When you come across one of those instances, stop, take a deep breath, and pray that the Lord take away those wrong feelings. Take away the envy, the anger, the impatience. Ask him to take away the grudges, the ledger you’re keeping. Pray that he take away your pride and watch what a love like God’s can do in your life. It can only be amazing!


Author: Ally Nelsen

Ally Nelsen has been attending Vineyard North Phoenix for two and a half years. She participates in small groups and volunteers with the Golf Cart ministry. She teaches middle school reading and loves when she gets to see her students at some of the churches outreach events. She is bookworm and history nerd who tends to get judged by her cat when she rocks out to musical soundtracks.

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