Whom Do You Please?

I was blocked on Facebook.

You wouldn’t think that it would bother me, but it did.  It kinda made me think about what I had done or said or posted on that had been so upsetting that I earned the dreaded Facebook block.  I really, truly, am still not sure to this day the reason behind this blocking, and to be honest, it bothered me.  A lot.

You see, I am a people-pleaser.

I’ve been conditioned from childhood to be so.  I figured out early on that people-pleasing was in my best interest.  I mean, it offers the golden fruit of no stress and a happy life…doesn’t it?  People-pleasing means that no one will be mad at me, no one will be disappointed with what I say or do and being happy is the most important thing in life, right?  Because if I make everyone else happy then their happiness will most certainly rub off on me!

But it’s hard work pleasing everyone.  It’s a 24 hour job with no end in sight; always second-guessing myself, holding myself up to the whims and standards of those around me, only to always fall short left me feeling insecure, exhausted and frustrated with myself.  Not a good place to be.

Pleasing people is not what I was created for.  Pleasing people is not what God wants for me.

Galations 1:10 says…  “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or God?  Or am I trying to please people?  If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”  (NIV)

Pleasing people is a set-up for disaster.  The only person I should be trying to please is my God.  In my actions, in my words, in my heart, the only one whose approval matters is God.  And according to the above scripture, I can’t do both.  I have to make a choice.  It’s either please the world around me or please the God who’s in me.

It’s something that I struggle with everyday, because I am still trying to get out of the people-pleasing business.

Yes. I still stumble.  Yes. I still fall.  And yes, I probably will get blocked on Facebook again.  And I’m okay with that.  Because I’ve found that pleasing God is so much better because, unlike people, He offers true grace and forgiveness.

Blessings,

Kathy W

2 thoughts on “Whom Do You Please?”

  1. Oh, Kathy, I’m sorry FB blocked you!!! I’m sure it was a mistake.

    I really enjoyed your post — not only because it’s so well-written — but also because this is something I’ve struggled with all my life.

    May I recommend a book by Joyce Meyer titled “The Approval Fix”? It’s really good!

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