Like many people (it seems), I’ve had issues with some things my dad did to me over the years and I struggled with unforgiveness. I knew I should forgive him. I knew what forgiveness was and what it wasn’t. I even read about how unforgiveness can interfere with God moving in certain areas of our lives. But I STILL struggled with it.
I finally looked to the LORD and what He did. Jesus actually prayed for those who crucified Him. “Then Jesus said, ‘Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do’ “ (Luke 23:34a). And in John 20:23 Jesus says, “If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them; if you retain the sins of any, they are retained.”
So if we hold our father’s sins against them then we’re not only hurting them but also ourselves. The father’s sins will be retained and that barrier between us will remain. That barrier is not of God’s kingdom. It represents an absence of God and therefore an absence of restoration and healing (for them and us).
Do you want healing of any sort for yourself and your family (emotional, physical, etc)? Maybe unforgiveness of our fathers is partly why we haven’t fully received various healings. In Deuteronomy 7:15 God told the Israelites that He will take away ALL sickness if they are obedient to Him. (Please read the entire chapter). Obedience includes forgiving as Christ forgives.
We should pray that God would NOT hold our father’s sins against them because they knew not what they did to us. They were broken too. They needed healing too. God forgive them for what they did and forgive us for holding it against them. Please bring fullness of every sort of healing for them and us.
Christ forgave His torturers, died, and THEN rose above it all, fully restored. Forgive. Die to self. Then rise up… healed and fully alive.